Teaching kids to fight back against bullies - Spokane, North Idaho News & Weather KHQ.com

Teaching kids to fight back against bullies

Posted: Updated:
PHOTO: Facebook/Miller's Martial Arts Academy) PHOTO: Facebook/Miller's Martial Arts Academy)
SPOKANE, Wash. -

There's been a recent anti-bullying trend in an effort to help kids to fight back. Bully-proofing classes are becoming more popular and are encouraging children to take a more aggressive approach to avoid becoming a victim. Instructor Korbett Miller at Miller’s Martial Arts Academy in Kirkland, WA stands behind the belief of helping students strengthen themselves, both mentally and physically.

Miller likes to ask the question, “'what do you think the most important part of your body to protect yourself is?” He then replies with perhaps the most powerful response, “it’s your voice.”

Educational psychologist and nationally recognized parenting expert Michele Borba couldn't agree more. She's developed these six non-violent strategies to bully-proof your child, that you can practice at home.

  1. Use strong body posture. Teach your child to stand tall and hold his or her head up to appear more confident and look less vulnerable.
  2. Stay calm. Bullies love power and knowing they can push other kids' buttons, so tell your child "Try to not let a bully know he upset you."
  3. Say “no” with a firm voice. Teach your child that if he or she needs to respond, simple direct commands work best. The trick is not to look or sound like a victim.
  4. Teach comebacks. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that most bullying begins with verbal harassment. Give your kids some one-liners to defuse the verbal torment
  5. Don't say please, as in please stop picking on me. If you beg or plead, the response gives the bully the power he craves.
  6. Leave the scene. Ideally the child should walk towards other kids or an adult. Tell your child not to look back and to get help if they need. 

Borba says, "fight only as a very last resort if you must defend yourself." It is important to emphasize that you will support them no matter what.

There are no winners when it comes to bullying and local Clinical Manager at Lutheran Community Services Dan Fox wishes that it wasn’t a growing problem.

Fox says “many of the bullies that we treat here have similar problems to the people who were bullied...we find both sides...the bully needs help and the victim needs help.” 

Fox is willing to get to the bottom of the issues our children face because bullies often “have a lot of symptoms similar feelings of isolation or anger.” Lutheran Community Services provides resources in order to “try to do is understand the origin...sometimes it’s something from childhood...maybe sometimes they were bullied themselves in school” and provide help accordingly.

For more information and other helpful resources, please visit:

http://www.mmaa.com/bullyproof/

http://micheleborba.com/bully-proofing-strategies-for-kids/

  • Most Popular StoriesMost Popular StoriesMore>>

  • New York State illegally moving convicted sex offenders from prisons into group homes with the developmentally disabled

    New York State illegally moving convicted sex offenders from prisons into group homes with the developmentally disabled

    Thursday, September 20 2018 9:14 AM EDT2018-09-20 13:14:31 GMT
    Three State agencies are involved in placing convicted sex offenders in group homes or hiding this information from the families and the general public>>
    Three State agencies are involved in placing convicted sex offenders in group homes or hiding this information from the families and the general public>>
  • Psychiatric hospital coming to Spokane

    Psychiatric hospital coming to Spokane

    Friday, September 21 2018 12:17 PM EDT2018-09-21 16:17:08 GMT
    The three finalists bidding for the Riverfront Park project visited Spokane todayThe three finalists bidding for the Riverfront Park project visited Spokane today

    SPOKANE, Wash. (AP) - A new 100-bed psychiatric hospital is coming to Spokane.    The Inland Northwest Behavioral Health hospital, which opens to patients in October, will have about 200 employees.    The Spokesman-Review says the $33 million facility will be split into four units, each with 25 beds for inpatient services. One unit will be reserved for adolescent patients between the ages of 13 and 17.

    >>

    SPOKANE, Wash. (AP) - A new 100-bed psychiatric hospital is coming to Spokane.    The Inland Northwest Behavioral Health hospital, which opens to patients in October, will have about 200 employees.    The Spokesman-Review says the $33 million facility will be split into four units, each with 25 beds for inpatient services. One unit will be reserved for adolescent patients between the ages of 13 and 17.

    >>
  • DVR cuts ties with contractor, leaving hundreds of disabled people hanging in Spokane

    DVR cuts ties with contractor, leaving hundreds of disabled people hanging in Spokane

    Saturday, September 22 2018 1:30 AM EDT2018-09-22 05:30:53 GMT

    SPOKANE, Wash. - The State Department of Vocational Rehabilitation (DVR) is a life-changing resource for hundreds of disabled people in Spokane. Finding them jobs, counseling and places to live. A big part of the agency's mission is at a standstill after DVR cut ties with one of it's major contractors without warning. For twenty-seven years, Compass has been a one-stop shop for launching disabled and disadvantaged residents on a path to a better, independent life. 

    >>

    SPOKANE, Wash. - The State Department of Vocational Rehabilitation (DVR) is a life-changing resource for hundreds of disabled people in Spokane. Finding them jobs, counseling and places to live. A big part of the agency's mission is at a standstill after DVR cut ties with one of it's major contractors without warning. For twenty-seven years, Compass has been a one-stop shop for launching disabled and disadvantaged residents on a path to a better, independent life. 

    >>
HD DOPPLER 6i
/
  • Top Stories from KHQHomeMore>>

  • Thieves try to break into Mead cemetery again

    Thieves try to break into Mead cemetery again

    Saturday, September 22 2018 8:32 PM EDT2018-09-23 00:32:15 GMT

    MEAD Wash. - Dale Baker takes time out of his busy schedule to make sure the Peone Cemetery in Mead right off of North Bruce Road is well cared for "It's a personal thing to me to volunteer here to keep something up that’s important to everybody in this community," said Volunteer Dale Baker Baker has relatives and friends who are buried in the over 100-year-old cemetery. 

    >>

    MEAD Wash. - Dale Baker takes time out of his busy schedule to make sure the Peone Cemetery in Mead right off of North Bruce Road is well cared for "It's a personal thing to me to volunteer here to keep something up that’s important to everybody in this community," said Volunteer Dale Baker Baker has relatives and friends who are buried in the over 100-year-old cemetery. 

    >>
  • Wind topples tree limb, concrete post; 1 killed, 2 injured in Tri-Cities

    Wind topples tree limb, concrete post; 1 killed, 2 injured in Tri-Cities

    Saturday, September 22 2018 7:43 PM EDT2018-09-22 23:43:47 GMT

    RICHLAND, Wash. (AP) - High winds toppled a tree limb and a concrete light post at two festivals in the Tri-Cities, killing one woman and sending two other people to a hospital. The Tri-City Herald reports that sustained winds of 18 mph (29 kmh) and gusts of up to 25 mph (40 kph) knocked down a tree limb at Ye Merrie Greenwood Renaissance Faire on Saturday afternoon, killing a woman.  

    >>

    RICHLAND, Wash. (AP) - High winds toppled a tree limb and a concrete light post at two festivals in the Tri-Cities, killing one woman and sending two other people to a hospital. The Tri-City Herald reports that sustained winds of 18 mph (29 kmh) and gusts of up to 25 mph (40 kph) knocked down a tree limb at Ye Merrie Greenwood Renaissance Faire on Saturday afternoon, killing a woman.  

    >>
  • Columbia Gas to cover losses related to gas disaster

    Columbia Gas to cover losses related to gas disaster

    Saturday, September 22 2018 6:50 PM EDT2018-09-22 22:50:32 GMT

    LAWRENCE, Mass. (AP) -  Authorities say Columbia Gas has agreed to compensate its customers for all losses related to a series of gas explosions and fires in Massachusetts' Merrimack Valley.  Town officials in Andover announced Saturday that the utility company will pay claims related to bodily injury, property damage, disruption of business and other inconveniences caused by loss of gas service.  

    >>

    LAWRENCE, Mass. (AP) -  Authorities say Columbia Gas has agreed to compensate its customers for all losses related to a series of gas explosions and fires in Massachusetts' Merrimack Valley.  Town officials in Andover announced Saturday that the utility company will pay claims related to bodily injury, property damage, disruption of business and other inconveniences caused by loss of gas service.  

    >>