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Duties for parents of the bride

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Mother of the Bride

  • Helps the bride compile the guest list
  • Helps arrange the details of the ceremony and reception
  • May assist with selecting the bride's wedding outfit and trousseau
  • Is invited to most pre-wedding partie
  • Helps keep track of wedding gifts
  • May scout out reception sites, photographers, florists, caterers, and other wedding-service professionals - especially if the bride lives out of town and there is no coordinator hired
  • Chooses her dress first, then informs the groom's mother of her selection
  • Keeps the bride's father and the parents of the groom posted on the progress of the wedding plans
  • Runs errands as the need arises
  • May also give the bride family heirlooms to wear on the wedding day
  • May accompany bride down the aisle
  • Is seated in the first pew on the bride's side of the aisle
  • Is the first guest to be ushered out, with her husband or escort, after the recession is over
  • Serves as official hostess
  • Joins the newlyweds on the dance floor with the father of the bride during the first dance
  • Is on hand to keep the bride calm, smooth out last-minute crises, and offer moral support throughout the wedding

Father of the Bride

  • May share in scouting out wedding sites and assorted wedding services
  • May set up travel arrangements for out-of-town guests
  • Might draw maps of the various wedding sites with directions
  • Gets fitted for formalwear that blends with that of the groom and other men in the wedding party
  • Rides to the ceremony with the bride in the limousine and escorts her into the ceremony site
  • Walks the bride down the aisle (perhaps with her mother on the bride's other arm)
  • At the altar, offers his support or blessing (what has traditionally been called "giving away the bride")
  • Joins the bride's mother in the first pew
  • May mingle with guests, instead of standing in the receiving line
  • Keeps an eye on the bar and champagne supply and alerts banquet manager if more is needed
  • Joins the newlyweds on the dance floor - with the mother of the bride (unless they've divorced, in which case the custom may be omitted) - during the first dance
  • May make a short toast or welcoming speech
  • Leaves the reception last, after bidding all guests good-bye


Mother and Father of the Groom

  • Contact the bride's parents by phone or letter
  • May host an engagement party (after the bride's family first hosts one), or lunch to introduce the bride to their friends
  • Provide a list of an agreed-upon number of guests
  • Let bride know about family traditions (ethnic dances or festive dishes) to consider including in the celebration
  • Consult with the bride's parents on the property wedding attire
  • Traditionally, they do pay for some wedding expenses.  These may include the engagement and wedding rings, marriage license, clergy fees, corsages, boutonnieres, bride's bouquet, ushers' gifts, liquor, music, and honeymoon.
  • May give the couple a special gift
  •  Are invited to all pre-wedding parties
  • Attend the rehearsal and practice any special duties
  • Traditionally host the rehearsal dinner
  • Arrive fifteen minutes before the ceremony's scheduled starting time
  • Escort the groom (one on each side) down the aisle
  • The groom's mother stands second in the receiving line
  • Sit at the parents' table with the bride's parents
  • Dance with the newlyweds.
  • May be served the fifth and sixth pieces of wedding cake (after the newlyweds each cut pieces to feed each other, and after the bride's parents are served)
  • Play a more visible role  if they are solely sponsoring the wedding