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Wedding Party Duties

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Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor

  • Assists the bride with pre-wedding tasks whenever possible
  • Arranges a date to have all bridesmaids' gowns fitted
  • Pays for her entire wedding outfit, except the flowers
  • Attends all pre-wedding parties and may host one with the other attendants
  • Precedes the bride and her father down the aisle
  • Arranges the bride's train and veil, holds the bride's bouquet as she stands next to her during the ceremon
  • Holds the groom's ring during the ceremony, until it is needed
  • Signs the marriage certificate (must be over 18 years old)
  • Stands next to the groom in the receiving line and sits on his left at the head table if it's a seated reception
  • May be announced - with the best man - to all the reception guests immediately before the newlywed
  • Can dace with the best man, then the groom, during the newlyweds' first dance
  • Takes time out to help the bride bustle her train, remove her headpiece, and change for the honeymoon.

Best Man

  • Checks on such wedding details as accommodations for out-of-town usher
  • Sees that the groom is properly outfitted and at the ceremony site on time for the ceremony
  • Hands the ceremony officiant a sealed envelope with his fee (from the groom) immediately after the ceremony
  • May sign the marriage license as a witness
  • Carries the bride's wedding ring down the aisle
  • Oversees the ushers and groomsmen, making sure that all are uniformly dressed, thoroughly briefed, and at the ceremony site at the appointed hour
  • May stand in the receiving line or circulate amount among guests
  • May be announced - with the honor attendant - to all reception guests, immediately before the newlyweds
  • Can dance with the honor attendant, then the bride, during the newlyweds' first dance
  • Sits to the right of the bride, if it's a seated reception, and proposes the first toast to the new couple
  • Collects any congratulatory notes or faxes and reads them aloud if the couple wish, after the toast
  • He may also introduce the other guests
  • He makes sure that the windshields of the honeymoon car isn't over decorated
  • Escorts the bride and groom to the limousine or car, or may drive the couple to the
  • airport or hotel
  • Sees to it that all the men's rental clothes are returned to the formalwear store the first business day after the wedding
  • With the honor attendant, he may make sure that any gifts of money received at the wedding are deposited in the bank.
  •  Pays for or rents his entire wedding outfit



  • Are invited to all pre-wedding parties and may co-host a bridesmaids' lunch or bachelorette party
  • Pays for their own wedding outfit, chosen by the bride
  • Walk first in the procession.  Junior bridesmaids precede the maid of honor in the procession
  • Walk back up the aisle alone or escorted by groomsmen
  • May greet guests in the receiving line
  • May be announced - with the wedding party - to all reception guests, before the newlyweds
  • Can dance with the ushers/groomsmen during the newlyweds' first dance
  • Sit alternately with the ushers/groomsmen at the head table, if there is one
  • Along with the single attendants and guests, are called onto the dance floor to catch the bride's bouquet



  • Attend all pre-wedding parties the groom goes to and may host a bachelor part
  • Provide their own wedding clothes, renting the appropriate formal attire if they don't own it
  • May pick up ceremony flowers and aisle runner from the floris
  • Seat the guests at the wedding ceremony
  • Step forward and offer their right arm to each woman, as guests arrive
  • Seat the oldest woman first if several guests arrive together
  • Ask if the  guest is a friend of the bride or groom if he or she does not have a pew card and is unknown to the usher
  • If one side has many more guests than the other, explain that everyone will be sitting together
  • Unroll the aisle runner and tie pew ribbons (if used)
  • Participate in both the procession and the recession
  • Loosen pew ribbons after the recession
  • Are prepared to direct guests to parking and restroom facilities, and to the reception site
  • Escort guests form their cars - and back to them after the ceremony - will umbrellas if it rains
  • Make certain the ceremony site is cleared of the wedding party's belongings before leaving
  • Sit at the head table, if there is one, but do not stand in the receiving line, if there is one
  • Can be announced - with the wedding party - to all reception guests, before the newlyweds
  • Can dance with the bridesmaids during the newlyweds' first danc
  • Are alert to potential problem.
  • Propose toasts to the bride and groom
  • Decorate the couple's going-away car

Flower Girl

  • Usually between the ages of four and eight.
  • Attends rehearsal to practice her role.
  • Arrives dressed at the ceremony site an hour before the wedding for photographs.
  • Carries basket filled with loose rose petals to strew along bride's path during processional.

Ring Bearer

  • Immediately precedes the flower girl (if there is one) or the bride down the aisle
  • Balances a white lace or satin pillow with a faux bride's ring tied to the center with ribbons, or stitched down lightly with satin thread


  • May wear dress clothes similar to junior ushers and junior bridesmaids
  • Step forward to light the candles just before the mother of the bride is seated
  • Snuff the candles after the recession